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So things are starting to smooth out now that the holidays are over and we are getting less of the things I spoke of in previous posts but the annoyance I want to blah blah blog about is the people who don’t understand when an item is temporarily out of stock. They think we have a magic room where everything they need is stored. Some of us do have access to check if there are any in the back room but if we don’t … then we don’t !

We do get *new* shipment in but when or what exact date the trucks delivering the goods come in is unknown by anyone not even management. So it’s very pointless and annoying to argue with us or look at us like we’re just lazy and don’t wanna check the information. We do what we can to provide you the information you requested but up to our control. What is outside our control like the arrival of the shipment trucks … there’s nothing else or any other info we can provide that we already haven’t provided.

Even I as a Walmart shopper who’s shopped at many different Walmart store locations know every Walmart is different and not every item is available at ALL Walmarts. For example a Stayfree Feminine Padding I always purchase is only available at a Walmart in Duarte. Other Walmarts even the one I work at doesn’t carry the type I buy. You just have to be willing to make the extra trip and go to different Walmart stores.

My husband and I shop @ Walmart in Duarte, Walmart in Covina, Walmart in Chino, Walmart in Norwalk, etc. We shop at all sorts of Walmarts some several hours drive away. We don’t mind the road trip. It’s fun ! The choices you have if we don’t have the item you want is to … 1.) Come back when we might have it in stock – 2.) Go to other Walmart Locations – 3.) Buy it from another store like Target

Just have patience and understanding when you’re shopping at a store. It doesn’t have to be Walmart but any store. Items sometimes go out of stock especially since we’ve been having bad weather all over the US that delays the delivering trucks from arriving on time.

Start 2017 Broke ? (┬.┬)

Hey there ! I hope your 2017 has started off better than mine did. I’m not 100% complaining since I still do have a job but I am deeply bummed that I am only scheduled three(3) days in the whole month of January !! I don’t go to work til the 15th, 18th, and 19th for four(4) hours and that’s it ! That is not going to help me pay my bills.

I have spoken to management who are in charge of schedules and told they will take care of it but I guess not. I have to tell you … Transportation is vital when you have a job. I am disabled and don’t have a license to drive .. yet ! I don’t exactly make a good enough income to constantly be taking a Uber ride home. An Uber ride home costs $17 dollars on weekdays and $25+ on weekends. My husband can pick me up on his two(2) days off but If I did that for the other three(3) days scheduled *if scheduled at all* that would eat up my paycheck to where it’d be like I’m working for *Free* !!

Friends and family have suggested that I apply to be able to used Access transit service but I guess you can say my personal pride refuses. I’m not that badly disabled that I need to be using services like that. I am planning to work hard to pass my Drivers License in 2017 and get a car to drive myself to work. I was SUPER thrilled when I was told that instead of temporary seasonal associate I am going to be moved to permanent which meant I’d have a permanent income source for me to make personal improvements like pass my drivers license, buy a car for the 1st time and make payments, and enroll at PennFoster for their Graphic Design Bachelor Degree course.

But if they continue to schedule me like they did here for the month of January that would not exactly be a good idea if I’m only going to be working three(3) days of only four(4) hours income which comes out to $42 (o~O) ?!? At that rate the only car I could afford is a matchbox car or a model of my dream car. Hopefully this is temporary and February I will be given more hours. But something tells me that I may not last much longer with them. I sense either I’m going to be told that they cannot get a working schedule for me based on my transportation needs or be told I need to find a better transportation or another job closer to where I live.

If they could bump me from Part-Time to Full-Time and schedule me to work 12pm to 9pm then I’d have no problem but I think I might possibly have to rethink my options and resign as the hours and pay is not worth it for me transporation wise. I gained my work experience as my 1st job and established a work history so it wouldn’t be totally a lost. Once I pass my Drivers License I could probably go back and be happy with whatever they give me since I no longer have transportation issues. I pray that I do pass it !! You have no idea what it means to me to have my Drivers License !!

The 2017 saga journey begins …

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Hey, Everyone ! So how’s your Christmas shopping going ? You done ? Just getting started ? Wrapping the final gifts ? I haven’t even started doing mine since I started working my days off don’t line up with my husband’s so I don’t have time to shop and Walmart doesn’t exactly have everything I’d wanna buy my family. So most likely Christmas gifts for my family will be delayed til I am able to find time to shop.

Anyways I have some good news to report ! When I started blogging about my Walmart job opportunity I had originally applied as “Temporary Seasonal” and *makes trumpet sounds and throws confetti* I was told on Sunday that I am going to be kept and bumped from “Temporary Seasonal” to “Permanent”. *Insert sound of cheer and roar* YAY !!! So I am now an official Walmart Associate !! Some of you might cringe and think negatively about being a Walmart employee. But every store is different and every store management is different as well. The attitudes of the Walmart associates greatly depend on the attitude and ethics of the store management. I have awesome store management and fellow co-workers. We seriously are like a tight-knit family than employees.

Not only am I a Walmart associate but I am also a Walmart shopper and I shop at many different Walmart locations. I have seen and experienced the different store management environments. I can tell when store managements don’t respect their staff and just work them like a slave horse and never giving any praise or encouragement or show appreciation/gratitude and stores where management does what they’re supposed to and associates are happy, helpful, friendly, and upbeat.

But anyways I’m rambling away from my main topic today which is the “Online Only” subject. I get a lot of customers who come to our store looking for a product and say they saw it online and it says we carry it but we don’t. Many items you see on Walmart.com is “Online Only” and when it says we carry that product it does not mean we carry that product “In Store” it might mean that you are able to order the product and have it shipped to our store. Not every Walmart store has the Site-to-Store offer so if you find a product online on the website … my suggestion is to call the nearest store first to check if the item is in fact in the store but if it’s not it’s most likely an “Online Only” product and you’ll have to order it online and have it shipped or picked up in a store.

One suggestion I highly recommend which makes it easier on us associates as well as you the shopper is to download the Walmart app. In the app it will tell you the items we do have in store and also be able to look up what Walmart also has that item in stock should my Walmart location not have it. It’s really easier for you and less stressful for us rather than you yelling at us or arguing with us that the website said a product is in the store and that we have it !! Remember we are just store associates we have no control or access to the entire store inventory and what, if, or where a item is in stock. Best bet is to ask Store/Department Manager or go to Customer Service department as they will probably have that access to look up an item in our inventories and stock room.

I do my best to study the store on my breaks so that I can better assist you in finding the specific items you are looking for. It also decreases the chances of customers yelling at me bcuz they looked through the entire store and did not see what they were looking for. No offense but some customers can be sheerly shopper blind where the item could be under their nose or right between their eyes and they still won’t see it. I have had irate customers fuming and steaming at me that a fellow associate said an item is in this area and they circled around several times and did not find it. One quick scan with my eyes and it’s right in front of them !! Most laugh in embarrassment and some just have too much pride to be ashamed of themselves and say nothing ! Not even a thank you.

(∩3∩”) Walmart is kinda lucky that I am a hawkeye shopper since I was a kid. My Mom would be looking for something and I was always the one to find it in an instant. I still have that hawkeye shopper skill but I’m also very observant and look at everything on the shelves. I enjoy scanning through every aisle of a store and I think I got that from my Mom bcuz she is that way too. Could go into a grocery store with a short list of items that would normally take you a 10-20 minutes shop in and out the store but for my Mom it’ll take her 1-2 hrs. or longer as she browses the whole store. Sometimes she’ll come out with just the things on her list or she’ll find deals and sales and return with a cart full of things. But that’s all a part of the shopping experience !!

Another part of the shopping experience is walking through the store. I know my Walmart store is pretty big in comparison to some other stores but it’s all a part of the shopping fun if you have to go from one end of the store to the other and back. I’m amazed at customers to come to my department asking for tissues or toilet paper which is on the other side of the store and they go “(≥⌂≤) *ugh* Are you serious ? I have to walk all the way to the other side of the store for it ? WTF !!” *grumble mumble as they walk away* (ñ⌂ñ’) Come on people !! Consider it your daily cardio exercise to power walk to the other side of the store for your poo poo wipers.

I also get customers who cash out at my register saying … “I only came here for a few items and ended up with more than I needed bcuz the prices are just so great or I might have needed it later on”. Don’t feel regret or remorseful for buying more than you came into the store for. That’s the whole purpose and experience of shopping !! It happens to everyone even me ! I’d go to into like a craft store like JoAnns or Michaels looking to buy just adhesive tape refills for my ATG gun but end up picking up stamp sets, markers, paper packs, some stamp pads, and other items that I did not originally come into the store for but needed them or might need them for the future use.

But anyways as a customer/shopper please do your part and research first before you walk into a store and get irate, annoyed, angry, or throw a hissy fit at us bcuz a product you were looking for was not in our store shelves, stock inventory, or whatever. That is the problem with internet shopping … NOT EVERYTHING ONLINE IS IN STORE !! It’s one of the reasons I don’t like shopping online. My main reason is I don’t like paying shipping and waiting for the item to arrive. I kinda prefer to walk into a store, pay for just the item, have the item in hand, and get home to use it right away over shopping for it online, paying for the shipping, and waiting 2 weeks or sometimes month(s) for an item to arrive that you sometimes forget you even ordered.

But the holiday season stresses does take a toll on you and I am completely understanding about your frustrations but don’t take them out on the poor store workers who are working hard to provide you service to get your shopping done in a pleasant manner. Have a heart and remember while you’re out shopping and throwing your frustrations out on a store associate they are here working hard and not able to do their own shopping bcuz they are working hard for you. We aren’t robots who know where everything is or if every item both online and in the store is in our inventory.

Honestly though … since starting my job in retail @ Walmart in particular my attitude for retail workers has dramatically changed. I know have more patience and sympathize for fellow cashier workers who are hustling to get your items scanned, bagged, and totaled all while trying to keep a smile on their face when it’s been a LOOoong day or they’re feeling flustered by rude customers. It reminds me to always give my 110% when I’m behind my register and to offer comfort to fellow cashiers even in another store to relax, take a breath, smile, and interact with the customers so that the job goes by a bit easier. If you just (•↔•) Blank faced, no chit-chat, and just hustling through the customers purchases it does make customers feel awkward. I always smile, strike up a small conversation, and take my time. Rushing causes errors and just makes your day horrid.

Well, it’s time for me to get some little late lunch. Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas holiday … Merry Christmas from our family to yours and if you ever happen to be shopping at my Walmart location which is store# 5686 @ 1301 n. Victory Pl in Burbank, CA … Come on over to the Cosmetic Department register. I’ve kinda become the secret express lane where you can avoid the long lines and get in and out quicker. I am also able to take a large cart full of stuff as well but my counter space is quite limited so as long as we got a assembly-line type momentum going where I scan and you put the scanned item back in your cart and hand me the next item things go quite smoothly. It’s not always easy being in a wheelchair and all. Have a wonderful day and thank you for reading my blog posts and for those long time followers/subscribers … Thank you for your dedication to my blog postings and I look forward to continuing into the 2017 year and sharing more interesting things to post about.

I am not an All Knowing-All Seeing robot !! (>⌂<')

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Ok, so yesterday was the worst day of my work Life. I’m a very sensitive person and do not take being yelled at easily and cry easily. But before I go any further I want to say I know that the holiday shopping season is a very stressful time for everyone as there’s only 21 days left before Christmas and we’re all trying to get everyone on our list all while stressing over the fact that we’re maxing out our credit cards and going to be in debt for the next 2017 year. But don’t lash out at retail store employees or release your stress out on anyone else. No one deserves that !

Now let me go into detail what happened yesterday. Let me first say that ALL the negative BS about Walmart stores, their associates, etc. is all false ! As a Walmart Associate I can tell you that any negative Stigma around Walmart is caused by nobody else but rotten customers with rotten souls. Like yesterday my day was pretty hectic as is with people requesting an item from the locked display case and me not having access to the keys to the locked display case. The associate whom I know has the keys is nowhere to be found. Customers were upset waiting for someone to open the locked display case and getting upset at me thinking I’m lying to them about someone with access will be coming. That alone stressed out my day.

Then about an hour before I’m about to go to my Lunch break a lady asks for a specific item. An refill for a electric exfoliating brush. Customers have asked me if we sell those powered exfoliating brushes and I never seen them on the shelves and none of my coworkers who work along side me in the cosmetic department has seen or heard about such product. So I explained to the customer I don’t think we carry such a product but you can check what we have on the facial care section. I asked what brand it was and she didn’t even know. All our items in the Cosmetic Department is organized by Brand or product type.

Now also keep in mind that I am disabled and in a wheelchair so my range of vision is lower than an average person. I am not able to see what the items are on the top shelves or shelves higher than myself. So this customer looked for the item herself and found the product. *Good for her, right ?* She comes up to me and says “the product was right there on the shelf ! You should be very ashamed of yourself for being incompetent and not knowing what products are on your shelves. I should report you to your manager and have you fired”.

That seriously hurt my feelings and I started to cry. One, I’m still *new* only like a month since I started. I know the location of items in and around me like where the Toothpastes, Deodorants, Hair Dye/Hair Care items are, and certain cosmetic items but I DON’T KNOW WHERE EVERYTHING IS !! I’m not some kinda Walmart droid that can circle the store and find exactly where an item is give you Google Map directions to it. I’m HUMAN and most importantly I have feelings just like any other human.

It’s important to remember you don’t know a person just by looking at them. A few tidbits about me is I’m very emotionally sensitive, I cry easily when yelled at, teased, hurt, etc., I have Social Anxiety Disorder but trying to overcome it … so just being outside my comfort zone “Home” and working in an environment where it’s constantly social is a struggle and emotionally, mentally, and physically taxing at the end of the day, I’m learning disabled so it takes me a few minutes to count out your change and make sure that it is correct and coins are something I still struggle with so .90¢ to a normal person would be a quick and simple three(3) quarters .75¢ + a dime .10¢+ and a nickle .5¢ but for my slow brain I am counting my fingers to be sure it’s right or wanting to just hand you nine(9) .10¢ dimes to make it easy. I guess maybe I should carry a calculator in my pocket.

But what I’m trying to say is not I’m not the others and have a whole slew of disabilities like one I forgot to mention above is I’m also developmentally disabled. I may be 34 yrs. old in age but mentally I am probably more along the age of 5 or 10. A coworker even joked at me when she say my lunch was a Lunchables. She laughed at said “Aww… you’re like a little baby a 10 yr. old eating a Lunchables”. I laughed along side her but really it was a sad low blow to me since I am developmentally disabled and pretty much in my mind am a 10 yr. old.

I dunno maybe I should report all my disabilities to management so they are aware of them. I know they’re pretty much thinking the only disability I have is physically being in a wheelchair. I don’t think they are aware of my learning disability or other disabilities. But I’m sorry I’ve rambled off my topic. Anyways you as a shopper this holiday season or on any day need to show respect to the store clerks no matter what the store. Just like you we have our good days and bad days. You have no idea what a kind smile or kindness means and does to someone. When someone has a smile and genuinely kind it makes our day and yours all that better !!

Many of the shoppers who are shopping at my Cosmetic department at my Walmart store probably don’t even know that I have been paying for their .10¢ bag charge. I brought with me ALL the dimes from my pocket change jar and when I ask someone if they’d like a bag I’m not punching in the bag charge code but rather taking a mental note of how many bags they got and afterward paying for the amount of bags they got. I do it as my way of paying it forward to the valued customers as a Christmas gift from me to you.

I know you’re saying “Why don’t you just tell people you are paying for the bags ?” Well, the reason for that is because not everyone appreciates a kind act. Some will say “God Bless you and thank you for your kindness” others say “Ya, whatever”. So I chose just to keep the act of kindness to myself as I know God knows the act I am doing and he is the only one that really matters to me.

So as you do your Christmas shopping please don’t last your shopping stress out on store associates as we are on our own stress working hard to keep products you need on the shelves, helping customers find everything they’re looking for, and answer all and any questions you have to the best of our abilities. We are not robots who know everything and every items on our shelves so do not get irrate or ugly when we do not know something. Part of your job as a shopper is to use the two gumball sized organs in your head called Eyeballs and search for the item. Shopping in a store … ANY store is like reading through a Where’s Waldo book … Search for Waldo even if it takes hours to find it. If he’s not there look eleswhere and by elsewhere try another store. Not every store carries everything !! And what you see on a website is not always in stores as well but online-only !!

Be Thankful …

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Thanksgiving is just around the corner and it’s supposed to be that time of year where we count our blessings and say our Thanks but have we really lost touch with the things that are most important that badly ? I have witness many unthankful, ungrateful, and unappreciative people that it’s really sad.

So it’s been about a little over a week since I’ve officially been working behind a cash register and I’m starting to get the hang of things without making any boo boos. But the complaints I’ve been hearing from coworkers about having to work on Thanksgiving holiday or to be having to work … PERIOD on any day ! I’ve heard that people have quit left to right due to not enough hours being given and just basic whining and complaining.

What happened to being thankful during the Thanksgiving season or every day of your Life ? I am deeply thankful and grateful that I have a job ! Thanksgiving in my honest opinion is now sorta overated. You can still spend time with your family but do you really want to spending it sitting around a table and stuffing your face with Turkey, Ham, Stuffing, Green Beans, Pie, etc. I’m no Thanksgiving kill joy but save the family gathering and stuff for Christmas.

It just grinds my gears *Yes, I used a Peter Griffin phrase* that people are complaining, whining, and got their undies in a bunch bcuz they have to work on Thanksgiving, not working enough hours, or they have to work at all. I am glad I have my job and willing to work ANY hours they give me and ANY type they need me. I am happy to serve the customers and really take the phrase “Proud Walmart Associate” literally ! I am proud !

There are plenty of people in the world who are struggling and living out of a homeless shelter searching for a job everyday but unable to get one and here you are blessed to have a job even if it’s a meager one and all you do is complain about it from the moment you swiped your ID badge into the time clock til the moment you swipe it again to clock out.

All I can say is those who complain and whine on a chronic level … you really need to re-evaluate the ways you chose to live your Life otherwise you’ll just grow old miserable and bitter about everything and anything constantly complaining, b!tching, and whining til you’re 6′ ft under the ground with a tombstone that says … Bah Hum Bug ! Screw You !! !@#$*

Life is a lot more brighter when you are thankful for even the smallest of things, worry less, stress less, and just live in the utmost positive ways possible. Also always try to fix the negative reflections you see in the mirror into positves. Negative anything just corrupts the soul, corrupts your mind and mindset, and corrupts your future leaving you with a dark cloud lingering forever over you hindering any positive warmth and sunshine to shine through.

So this Thanksgiving and all throughout the the year both the remaining 2016 and the beginning of the *new* 2017 … Be Thankful ! Make a list of everything you are Thankful for ! Get a small gift for the people you are Thankful for and take a moment to even thank a stranger whether it’d be the McDonald’s worker who got you your McNuggets or your neighbor out for a stroll with their dog. A simple Thanks could make all the difference to someones day.

One Door Closes … Another is Opened !

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Hey, everyone ! So with today’s blog post I am going to close the previous journey blog posts as it’s currently in hibernation mode so to speak. I haven’t quit the job it’s just I have a *new* obligation that I would like to start blogging about. So hopefully you’ll still stick around and enjoy my *new* posts as well.

So as of October 27th, 2016 I have started my 1st job ever as a Seasonal Cashier at Walmart. I have been a long time customer of Walmart but now I am proud to say I am a associate of Walmart. I will not disclose the store location but I wanted to blog about my journey like I did with my business journey. Possibly people whom read my blog post will change their attitude and views of Walmart stores and their employees.

As I stated in the previous paragraph I have shopped at Walmart for the longest time and pretty much know most of the Walmart locations I shop at. So you’d think I’d know where things are. Well, let me burst myth #1 that Walmart workers never know where anything is located in their stores. Ok, that one is false !

Walmart is constantly moving the location of their items especially during seasonal months when they stock more inventory for the seasonal holiday like gift sets and decorations, etc. They move a lot of the aisles that was previously there to a *new* location and so associates aren’t often aware of the location change and where the *new* location is.

We are not dumb, clueless, or just don’t care !! We’re often so wrapped up in our own department duties that we just aren’t noticing the relocation changes. I’m not here to argue or pick fights but as a shopper I think part of the shopping experience is looking around and finding what you’re looking for. It’s kinda like a Where’s Waldo book ! Go around the store and look for Waldo the jar of Pickles or Waldo the box of Q-Tips. When you’re reading a Where’s Waldo book there’s nobody to ask … Excuse me ? Have you seen Waldo or know where I can find him ? NO ! You look for him yourself until you find him.

My day 6 shift starts later this evening but I do have some gripes with how Walmart treats their *new* hires especially someone like myself who’s never worked a job before so everything and I mean EVERYTHING is *new* to me and even more so that I am a Cashier and never been a cashier or have any cashier experience. I’m getting the hang of it but they kinda put me in a department where I’m kinda abandoned from any assistance if I need any. I have a code to punch into the registry to call a manager over but they never come.

Another gripe is they do not have per aisle mapping so when customers come asking for an item I have no idea where … I have to just guestimate where that might be found or where I’d go if I were looking for that product. I plan to later today create my own aisle to aisle map so that I ensure when a customer asks where a certain product is at least I can direct them to the right aisle and let their own eyes see what side shelf it’s on.

I have always been a person who puts others first and a bit of an OCD perfectionist so it eats away at my soul if I directed someone to an aisle and it was wrong. I not only let down the customer but the Walmart store and all the other fellow associates. We’re now in a day and age where complaints, gripes, or dissatisfaction of a store is not only kept to themselves or silenced. We have sites now like Yelp where you write comments Good or Bad about a particular store and that particular employee or manager or whoever.

I for sure do not want to be written in a angry Yelp comment that I told them a certain item was here or there and was wrong. And be labeled things like another dumba$$ Walmart worker or don’t bother asking just go look for it yourself. In the next few days I am going to personally take steps to ensure that I am able to direct customers in the right direction and be at least 90% correct.

We do get recognized when a customer tells management that we are doing an positive job via a Appreciation pin and our name on the I Appreciate You board. I may be temporary seasonal worker but I make it my goal to earn a pin before my Seasonal work is over. I may possible be kept as a permanent if they like how I work so that’s also a goal of mine that I stay even after the seasonal season is over.

But please, before you go negatively labeling or viewing Walmart associates look in the mirror first. Remember the golden rule … Treat others as you want to be treated. If you’re straight our nasty to us when asking for help … do you expect us to smile while you beat us on the head with a loaf of french bread as you ask where’s the butt wipes at ? Be polite, Be respectful, Be friendly ← that one especially because we’re all working hard and we’re often exhausted and a few kind and friendly words of encouragement would really make our day go a bit better.

So I ask you not just to Walmart store but any and ALL stores you visit in the upcoming holiday season … Have mercy on us ! We’re most likely *new* seasonal workers and our nerves are already on edge trying to learn the *new* duties and roles. So we’d appreciate some kindness this holiday season. It’s Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays not Murder Christmas and Hack Away Holidays. Show mercy, Be patient, and polite as you do your holiday shopping !

Tough Love .vs. Empathy – Part 26

Well, it’s almost the weekend ! Hope you have some greatness in store for your weekend. I want to start off today’s post by first saying … Thank you ! Thank you to those who have voiced out their opinions and requesting that I continue writing about my business journey and how much it is being enjoyed as they relate to it in their own current business journey. I also want to thank the *new* followers of my blog … Thank you and Welcome !

When I originally started this blog I never really started with the intention of having a large following of readers but mainly just a blog where I wanted to jot my personal thoughts, opinions, and random babble jargon. I did know in the back of my mind that there will be someone reading my blog and finding it interesting. But I still never kept too much focus on the subject. But now I am surely grateful and happy to know that there are readers and that you are all enjoying what I write especially my latest business journey writings.

So I will accept your requests and continue writing my business journey as it compels me to do so. The messages I received about how it’s been relate-able and  how some of you are also going on the same journey as I am is touching to know and I appreciate you voicing out to me your opinions on my blog. So without further ado … Let’s get this blog started ! Here we go !! \(n 3 n)/

Today’s business journey post I wanted to talk about Tough Love .vs. Empathy. What do I mean by that ? Well, I kinda think of being in this business as like being at War. We’re a;; after the same goals pretty much which is to get debt-free, be financially free, job-free, and reach that level and beyond in this business which can truly turn your Life around.

Now how many of you have played an FPS *First Person Shooter* game ? Something like Counter Strike, Call of Duty, Battlefield, etc. Doesn’t matter whether it was on PC or Console but these games work well on teamwork as everyone battles to stay alive and/or maintain a high kill score. My husband and I used to play Counter Strike a lot !! We even at one point owned our own server and a part of what made our

My husband and I used to play Counter Strike a lot !! We even at one point owned our own server and a part of what made our Counter Strike team great was teamwork and pretty much the Lilo & Stitch Ohana motto of “Nobody get’s left behind”. We always scoured the maps in teams and backed each other up. One *normally with the better shooting skills. L0L* would go first and when that person is shooting we’d also shoot as a backup. When we had a teammate low on HP we shielded them and protected them til our team won.

I have a few friends who are real life military soldiers and I think of this business kinda like being in the military and each team has their Army of Men and Women battle to win it ! Now in the military, you can imagine there’s a pretty big difference between tough love .vs. empathy. How so you say ? Well, when you’re out there on the field there’s gonna be times where you’re too exhausted to keep moving. A fellow soldier might fall to the ground in exhaustion. Most Army captains show tough love by telling you to leave them behind and shout “MOVE, MOVE, MOVE … KEEP MOVING FORWARD”.

I have to admit my husband and I are the two soldier who is falling behind from the rest of the team and our captain often facilitates that tough love. He doesn’t seem to show much empathy to those who fall behind and be understanding of one’s feelings or situations.My husband and I aren’t really should I say prepared to keep up with the team. We lack some of the skills and sometimes wonder what are we doing on this team/business. But we aren’t quitting and we continue to tread forward even if we’re behind.

In the webster dictionary the definition of Empathy is … the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also :  the capacity for this. Or the simple definition of … the feeling that you understand and share another person’s experiences and emotions : the ability to share someone else’s feelings.

I have to be honest that I just don’t feel like our team captain has Empathy and our partner aka Upline we feel is one of those soldiers who’ll stay behind for a second but hesitate to completely stay and fall behind from the rest of the team. Their the type who say they’re deeply sorry and run to catch up with the rest leaving you behind. And our team captain is like all other Army captains who just say keeping moving forward don’t stop and leave the fallen behind as they’ll slow the rest of us down.

So I’ve come to realize the only team I have is just between me and my husband. We are both very empathetic people so if one falls we’ll be there to pick you up and if one is too exhausted to go forward we’ll stay behind and help you rest. Our team has moved so far ahead and our circumstances just keeps dragging us behind. So if you’re in the same business as us and started a team of your own even a mini one of a 2-3 people … chose Empathy over Tough Love. The goal will always be there and there’s no specific time limite or expiration date to reach that business goal.

As they say money can’t buy you Love. If you were to pick two(2) people and one has Empathy the other Tough Love and have each create a team for a Call of Duty battle I thikn the team with Tough Love might win the battle with cold-hearted skills but Empathy could also win will compassionate teamwork, strategy, and be stronger as a brick wall because of the compassion and teamwork foundation keeping it strong. In my personal FPS gaming experience … a Tough Love team often results in team kills where someone kills their own teammate or there’s arguements where as a team with true teamwork skills remain til the very end of the round and often win via forfeit.

You choose how to run your team in the business but I’d definitely wanna be a part of a team that cares about one another and not after the $$$ signs or amount of zerOs that will be after the Amount of : part on their victory check.