Tough Love .vs. Empathy – Part 26

Well, it’s almost the weekend ! Hope you have some greatness in store for your weekend. I want to start off today’s post by first saying … Thank you ! Thank you to those who have voiced out their opinions and requesting that I continue writing about my business journey and how much it is being enjoyed as they relate to it in their own current business journey. I also want to thank the *new* followers of my blog … Thank you and Welcome !

When I originally started this blog I never really started with the intention of having a large following of readers but mainly just a blog where I wanted to jot my personal thoughts, opinions, and random babble jargon. I did know in the back of my mind that there will be someone reading my blog and finding it interesting. But I still never kept too much focus on the subject. But now I am surely grateful and happy to know that there are readers and that you are all enjoying what I write especially my latest business journey writings.

So I will accept your requests and continue writing my business journey as it compels me to do so. The messages I received about how it’s been relate-able and  how some of you are also going on the same journey as I am is touching to know and I appreciate you voicing out to me your opinions on my blog. So without further ado … Let’s get this blog started ! Here we go !! \(n 3 n)/

Today’s business journey post I wanted to talk about Tough Love .vs. Empathy. What do I mean by that ? Well, I kinda think of being in this business as like being at War. We’re a;; after the same goals pretty much which is to get debt-free, be financially free, job-free, and reach that level and beyond in this business which can truly turn your Life around.

Now how many of you have played an FPS *First Person Shooter* game ? Something like Counter Strike, Call of Duty, Battlefield, etc. Doesn’t matter whether it was on PC or Console but these games work well on teamwork as everyone battles to stay alive and/or maintain a high kill score. My husband and I used to play Counter Strike a lot !! We even at one point owned our own server and a part of what made our

My husband and I used to play Counter Strike a lot !! We even at one point owned our own server and a part of what made our Counter Strike team great was teamwork and pretty much the Lilo & Stitch Ohana motto of “Nobody get’s left behind”. We always scoured the maps in teams and backed each other up. One *normally with the better shooting skills. L0L* would go first and when that person is shooting we’d also shoot as a backup. When we had a teammate low on HP we shielded them and protected them til our team won.

I have a few friends who are real life military soldiers and I think of this business kinda like being in the military and each team has their Army of Men and Women battle to win it ! Now in the military, you can imagine there’s a pretty big difference between tough love .vs. empathy. How so you say ? Well, when you’re out there on the field there’s gonna be times where you’re too exhausted to keep moving. A fellow soldier might fall to the ground in exhaustion. Most Army captains show tough love by telling you to leave them behind and shout “MOVE, MOVE, MOVE … KEEP MOVING FORWARD”.

I have to admit my husband and I are the two soldier who is falling behind from the rest of the team and our captain often facilitates that tough love. He doesn’t seem to show much empathy to those who fall behind and be understanding of one’s feelings or situations.My husband and I aren’t really should I say prepared to keep up with the team. We lack some of the skills and sometimes wonder what are we doing on this team/business. But we aren’t quitting and we continue to tread forward even if we’re behind.

In the webster dictionary the definition of Empathy is … the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also :  the capacity for this. Or the simple definition of … the feeling that you understand and share another person’s experiences and emotions : the ability to share someone else’s feelings.

I have to be honest that I just don’t feel like our team captain has Empathy and our partner aka Upline we feel is one of those soldiers who’ll stay behind for a second but hesitate to completely stay and fall behind from the rest of the team. Their the type who say they’re deeply sorry and run to catch up with the rest leaving you behind. And our team captain is like all other Army captains who just say keeping moving forward don’t stop and leave the fallen behind as they’ll slow the rest of us down.

So I’ve come to realize the only team I have is just between me and my husband. We are both very empathetic people so if one falls we’ll be there to pick you up and if one is too exhausted to go forward we’ll stay behind and help you rest. Our team has moved so far ahead and our circumstances just keeps dragging us behind. So if you’re in the same business as us and started a team of your own even a mini one of a 2-3 people … chose Empathy over Tough Love. The goal will always be there and there’s no specific time limite or expiration date to reach that business goal.

As they say money can’t buy you Love. If you were to pick two(2) people and one has Empathy the other Tough Love and have each create a team for a Call of Duty battle I thikn the team with Tough Love might win the battle with cold-hearted skills but Empathy could also win will compassionate teamwork, strategy, and be stronger as a brick wall because of the compassion and teamwork foundation keeping it strong. In my personal FPS gaming experience … a Tough Love team often results in team kills where someone kills their own teammate or there’s arguements where as a team with true teamwork skills remain til the very end of the round and often win via forfeit.

You choose how to run your team in the business but I’d definitely wanna be a part of a team that cares about one another and not after the $$$ signs or amount of zerOs that will be after the Amount of : part on their victory check.

Time for a Change … Part 25

Well, I think I might start to close my business journey bloggings and return to just personal thoughts and opinions. It’s not that I am quitting the business or anything like that but there isn’t much else to really blog about as far as my business journey goes. All I can tell you is it’s not an easy endeavor ! If you are thinking about making the change and becoming an entrepreneur and business owner be sure you fully prepare yourself emotionally and financially to handle the unexpected.

When things in your Life seems like a repeated loop that just keeps circling round and round like a rotating planet in orbit then it’s time to make the change to break the loop and make the change. From a personal stand point my husband and I seem to be constantly repeating ourselves and not in a positive way. We’d break away from the rotating orbit only to land right back in. I often looked at our Life like a dog who just chases it’s tail for hours non-stop.

I said to myself … Things need to change ! We need to break out of this circle and it’s just doesn’t seem to be happening. Life in progress seems to be on stand-still as we try to stablize our energy to make the change. Change isn’t easy but action makes it tolerable. So if you’re looking to make a change and maybe look into business opportunities check out the following website(s) …


Accountability – Part 24


Well, I will give you a early warning that this post will somewhat be quite heavy in the emotions. As I mend another battle wound from my business journey. Each wound isn’t like a paper cut but more like a deep laceration to into your heart and soul. The feeling of each would is how you’d feel if you were run over by an 18 wheeler and every bone in your body has been crushed. It’s excruciatingly painful but it’s a part of the Entrepreneurial world. Every successful business owner will tell you been there felt that.

Honestly, if I were to describe the world we live in right now with one word … I’d have to say that word is LOST. So many had Dreams but lost them or lost the passion to pursue them. Summer is about to end and many are just beginning their Life journey after graduating High School a few months back and many are just Lost ! Going to College has become increasingly expensive that many are thinking twice about going but what is there after High School if you don’t go to College besides working odd jobs to survive or working a job you totally hate bcuz it’s the best you can do.

Before I start wandering off-topic I want to talk about Accountability. According to the dictionary … Accountable means : (of a person, organization, or institution) required or expected to justify actions or decisions; responsible. To me I believe Accountability is the most important thing in Life next to Religion and well … Breathing ! I think it’s something that we should all learn from day one !

Not so much mainly about doing what you said you’re going to do or making a commitment and sticking to it but I truly believe that accountability is a reflection on ones Life choices. If a person values accountability and also does what they say they will and consistent with their commitments I think they will have a positive and successful Life. But those who aren’t so accountable and don’t exactly do what they say and make their actions valid they are going to struggle in Life.

I had a teacher once who was totally not the poster model teacher for an accountability award. He never did what he promised or said nor was he ever on time to open up his classroom. He was even late to a field trip we were suppose to go on. He told the class and the principal to be early for the school bus at 7:00am. He arrived at 8:30am said things like his alarm clock didn’t go off, his dog hid his car keys, he couldn’t find his book bag, just excuse after excuse. Let just say come next semester we had a *new* teacher.

I can just imagine him working another job still not being accountable and just going through Life making excuses and not following through with anything. Now a great poster model for an Accountability award would have to be my husband ! He’s the most accountable guy I’ve ever met. When he says he’s going to be somewhere … he makes sure he’s early ! When he says he’s gonna do something … it’s done hands down ! Never makes any illegitimate excuses. If he calls off from work bcuz he is sick … HE IS SICK !

I am glad to be married to such a accountable guy bcuz I’ll be honest I’m a huge procrastinator and very wishy-washy when it comes to decision making so I am a wee bit unaccountable. But I’m working on it with the example of my husband ! He’s helping me a great deal with being accountable and sticking to goals, a to-do list, and commitments I made to myself.

But being an accountable person and making accountability a priority in Life I think is a very important asset to ones Life and Success in Life. It’s been a long journey since I first started this business endeavor and I can tell you un-accountability is a pretty common thing it seems. It does so much hurt me but it hurts to see someone with so many dreams just flush them away down the latrine. It hurts to see them just accept the what is over the what it could be. Settling for the long slavery Life of working til they’re no longer able to.

It’s really sad to see so many just chose to settle in that quadrant. We all know there’s no such thing as a glorious retirement at 65 or even a Social Security pay check that will provide a lavished posh living at 65. I know many who are living that retirement age and struggling to put food on their plates and most without the help of the children would most likely not survive very long. Even if you had a Six-figure job and saved away since you were a teen that money doesn’t replenish itself like a magic pot of rice. Money goes by real fast and unless you have a job or other means of steady income flow once it’s gone … it’s gone !

Then you’re presented with an opportunity that can provide a glorious Life and help you bring all your Dreams to fruition and shown the brighter light at the end of the tunnel instead of a dark tunnel with a note that says … Due to budget constraints the light at the end of the tunnel has been permanently turned off. Thank you !

We have shared the opportunity with so many people and given them hope back into their heart and souls. Turned what was a black and white heart and soul into a 4k clarity colorful rainbow. They seen it and felt it but just when they’re getting closer to planting the seeds to start their dream orchard that will one day come to fruition. They turn around and return to the darkened tunnel they were wandering for years and give up their Dreams and choose to live in the darkness of Slave labor and struggles.

It just doesn’t make sense and honestly it hurts to see people turn away and walk back to the dark world they lived. Why ? Why do you wanna work til your final breath ? Why work and try to save some of your pay check only to realize there’s nothing there to save once rent, utilities, car payment, auto insurance, debts, and everything is paid each month you only have enough for groceries for the week. You call that Life ?

Sure, you can tell me I’ve been saving my 401k and I have approx. $50,000 in it and plan to buy a house with that. Hope you plan to buy a casket for a bed bcuz by the time you save enough to buy your dream home you’ll be old and only living it for a short period of time while still working to pay for it. I have known people who bought a home and realized they can’t afford to keep it but don’t wanna lose it so they take up 2-3 jobs just to keep the home but not realize they’re never home to enjoy it bcuz they work 2-3 jobs and if they have a family it’ll most likely end in divorce with kids who never see them father or mother bcuz they’re always away at work.

My husband and I have been trying to open peoples eyes and see that that is not Freedom. Through our business we have seem people leave their jobs at 25 and make millions through their business. We are being mentors and coached by two of them as we speak. They have both left their jobs at 25 and one of them probably has more zeros attached to end of their bank balance than you can even count.

Both are married and have kids. None of them left their kids in a daycare or had only one parent home while the other worked. Both were home 24-7 and attended their kids needs 24-7. They can pack their bags and take off to any part of the world and not have to submit a vacation request or time off request nor check their bank accounts to see if they got the money to take this trip. They just go and decide when to come back.

Wouldn’t you want a Life like that ? I know I would. I just don’t understand why some would want to turn their backs on an opportunity like that when it’s presented to them. I would just take it and run with it til I’m living the dreams I have always dreamt. If you’re an accountable person and reading this wondering how can I get in on this opportunity ? My husband and I more than welcome you … You can check it our through our website : or call us @ (866) 280-5153 and we’ll get in contact with you to share this glorious opportunity.

But please … Please … PLEASE ! Don’t give up on your dreams and settle for the lesser. We all deserve more than we think and it hurts me so to see people just accept their struggles and think there’s no way out or that’s just the set of cards they’ve been dealt. NO ! Our circumstances and our Life can change if you chose to make the change, be accountable, persistent, and never … NEVER GIVE UP ! Never give up on yourself or the Dreams !! I believe in you and I know you believe in you !! GO 4 FREEDOM !!

Never Give Up Your Dreams – Part 23


It has been awhile since my last business endeavor post. I have not given up or quit ! I’m not a quitter !! Looking back since my first post I start to map or blog my business journeys a lot was experienced both UPs and DOWNs. But even through tears my husband and I continued on bcuz we believe in our Dreams and this business. And I can tell you that determination, faith, believing, and never quitting is beginning to pay off.

In the beginning we thought this business was impossible. Trying to share about a business that has just a permanent black eye and tarnished reputation that soon as you bring up the name it’s immediate negativity coming from people who know nothing about the company or the business. They are mainly based off friends, family members, or hearsay that is outdated by 10+ yrs.

Before you judge a company by it’s past learn about who they are now ! Every business … Every company has it’s past and has made mistakes that isn’t exactly favorable to the reputation of their company name. But still we are loyal to those companies and many of us are even doing business with them to this very day without thinking about their past history. So why do it to any other business or company and judge them by their past history as it only makes you a hypocrite.

Think Smart ! Do your research … Get to know the Company and the people associated with the company … Learn about the Companies values and systems … Heck attend a couple seminars and your judgement of the company might completely change !! You might even see it’s a positive company that you wanna become a part of. There’s too much negativity in the world as is. But Negativity is not an incurable disease … it’s a personal choice in Life. Give the world a bit of encouragement and avoid being a Negative Ned or Negative Nancy and live Life being a Positive Pete or Positive Paula.

Ok, enough of that ! Now onto the good news … if you’ve been reading my business journey posts since day 1 you’ll see the UPs and DOWNs the hurts and disappointments that I have encountered throughout this journey. Every business journey has their seasons ! Some are good some are bad. Well, we’ve reached a season of Good and possible chances of increase. Like I said in the beginning of this post my husband and I have not given up on our Dreams.

With that dedication and belief that we can do this … we’re starting to grow our sprout. In a previous post I used a tree metaphor and explained that in the beginning you’re a just a seed and all the seminars you attend, personal counseling/mentor meetings, etc. that’s just the fertilizer and water you’re absorbing into your seed in order for it to germinate. Well, we’ve officially sprouted and on our way towards becoming a tree.

We have a few couples seriously interested in taking this journey along side us. We currently have one seed that has been planted into our orchard and he has not sprouted yet but I have faith and believe that one day he too will grow into a strong successful tree. I have set a goal that by 2020 my husband and I will have started seeds to what will become a vast and fruitful orchard. WE WILL NOT GIVE UP ON OUR DREAMS !!

We’re now a little over a year into our business journey and I honestly from my own personal experience say that the first year of starting your endeavor in this business isn’t really about business growth but more personal growth. The first year is mainly learning to grown personally and overcoming fears, personal doubts, building self-confidence, and self-esteem, and clearing out the negativity in your Life.

It can be a pretty difficult and daunting task for some. Especially someone like myself who grew up negative and had so many personal fears, doubts, and had zerO self-confidence or self-esteem. Growing up with a physical disability was pretty difficult on it’s own. That feeling of being treated as different, unhuman, etc. Definitely puts you into a dark depressing negative bubble or let’s just say a dark gloomy cloud lures above you blocking out any sunshine *positivity* and that cloud lingered with me for many years. It’s not til recently that the sun started peeking from behind that cloud and I believe it’s due to this business changing me from the inside out.

I invite you to check out our website : and educate yourself about the business before you make false judgements or statements about this business. It really is a business that you would be dumb not to be a part of. If you have Dreams this is the gasoline to fuel them into action and get them out of your heart and mind and into your hands and built into reality. We are slowly but surely growing our business and I am eager as well as excited to know what is in store for us in the next 2 to 4 yrs. Like I said my goal is 2020 will be the year our tree branches our and grows fruit. Come join us and start your seed in the Freedom Orchard !!

Social Media … Love it or Leave it ! – Part 22

Modern Keyboard With Colored Social Network Buttons.

Hello … Many of us are still suffering the withdraws of the Fourth of July weekend that passed. We celebrated our Freedom and love for the country and with today’s post I wanna extend that love. One other thing I love about America is your right and entitlement to an opinion. When I first started Psycho Babble’s Blog is was mainly just that ! A place where I can freely state my opinions on things.

But now it’s become my blog where I blog about my Journey in becoming a Business owner, Entrepreneur, and more importantly an IBO in the Amway business. I am not going to go into details about that since I’ve been doing that since Day 1 that I started blogging about my business. So if you wanna read into detail go back to Day 1 and read up til now.

Anyways today’s post is about Social Media … you know Facebook, Twiiter, SnapChat, etc. In this business some people think of Social Media like Facebook as time wasters and something you should avoid. They actually advise you to delete your Facebook accounts and any Social Media accounts because they will deter you from your main focus and again waste your time.

I deeply disagree with that fact or statement ! I honestly believe that Social Media is an important tool to your business growth. The world has over 3+ billion people living in it ! If you avoid Social Media what are your chances of ever encountering anybody who lives outside your circle (i.e City or State of Residence) ? Of course other than vacation travelers and just travelers visiting. But even then if you shared this business opportunity with them how will you remain in contact without a Social Media account ? #1 thing people will ask is do you have a Facebook or SnapChat ? I know you can just communicate by email but to me that’s not a very personal relationship method.

To me using Social Media like Facebook helps you with business growth ! There are so many around the globe who have dreams but unsure how to obtain them or people who have heard about the Amway business but never knew who to get in contact with to learn more. Amway is such a vast company stretching over 100 countries. How awesome would it be if your Amway team isn’t just regional but global ??? You don’t just have downlines in nearby cities or in the same state but you have prospects/downlines all over the globe !!

I have made a few friends and shared this business opportunity with a few strangers now friends whom I met through Social Media like Facebook and Instagram. i would never imagine making any friends in London or UK or Japan or Thailand without the use of Social Media. So I completely disagree when people our team state that Social Media is a time waster and should be avoided to stay on track with your business goals.

I think by using Social media you can gain wide growth in your business and business team. I would love for my team to not just be California based but also branches out to other countries like the UK, Japan, Australia, etc. They won’t be directly mentored by me but they will be registered as my team and I think that is awesome and Social Media is the greatest way to meet people from all over the globe. So I say keep using the Social Media sites to help stretch your business beyond your dreams !!

Patience Young Sapling – Part 21


I have always been told that I am sorta the Metaphoric sage because I’m really good with creating Metaphors that really resonate and help people understand a situation a lot clearer. Some see it as a gift and some see it as pure wisdom beyond my years. But I thought about a metaphor that really resonated with myself as I was trying to explain to my Best Friend about my business.

So many people are just so negative about my company and the business. A Million Nos to 6 Yes is pretty much what most in the business want you to understand. Hearing No is never easy as rejection in itself is not easy nor pain-free. It hurts to be rejected and hear someone say No. I admit to you that I have cried many times over someone who has rejected and said No. I am not a strong person when it comes to rejections.

But maybe after I post this metaphor that I had created for myself people will realize and change their insights about this business and company. #1 thing I constantly hear is that it’s a pyramid/pyramid scheme. I’m sorry but it’s not that at all. It’s a tree rather than a pyramid ! (¬ ⌂ ¬) A tree ? Yes, I said a tree ! Let me explain what I mean by this business and company is a tree. Below is a image of a chart showing the Life cycle of a Tree …

When you plant a tree you start with the foundation which is the soil. You cultivate it and prepare it, ensuring that the soil is healthy, nutrient-rich, and the right consistency to sustain the life of a tree. This part is generally the beginning of your business process … as know as your learning process. You learn about the business and cultivate your mind and mindset so that it can sustain the Life and journey you are about to embark as an Entrepreneur/Business owner.

Now after the foundation is set you begin to plant your tree. Not everyone really starts growing a tree from a seed like in the image but think of your process that way. So you set the foundation and planted your seed. It takes quite a long time before you see any growth. Maybe 1-2 yrs you’ll start to see a sprout … 2-4 yrs. a sapling … 5-10 yrs. a small tree … 15+ yrs. a full grown tree.

Ok, so you’re thinking what does this have to do with the idea that this company and business is a Pyramid/Pyramid Scheme ? Well, if you really knew what was a Pyramid/Pyramid Scheme you’d know it means the higher ranked or tip of the pyramid makes the most money than the bottom of the pyramid and any money made in the entire pyramid goes to the tip of the pyramid.

That is not at all how this business and company works !! Hopefully this post will change peoples views and they will begin to see the truth and dissolve the false representations of what they thought they knew. Amway is not a Pyramid or Pyramid Scheme but rather it is a Arboretum. Many foundations are created and then a tree is planted. The tree is the base of what many think is pyramid.

In a tree you got the base and it’s many branches. In this metaphor I’ll be using fruit trees. So a fruit tree in all it’s glory provides of course it’s delicious fruit like the Apple, Cherry, Peach, etc. But in order to produce those fruit it starts with the foundation. A tree that has been planted in a healthy – nutrient *positive* soil foundation will have strong roots that run deep. A tree on the other hand that was planted on a poor foundation will had shallow roots and in a storm probably fall over.

The branches of a tree have many smaller branches that branch out from the larger branch which is part of the main tree. Some branches produce more fruit, some may not produce as many but have many leaves and healthy growth, then there are branches with no leaves, produce no fruit, just barren but alive. If you are a farmer and you are harvesting the fruit on the trees. The branches that producing the most amount of fruit is praised and brings joy. But the tree itself is not really acknowledged much. It’s branches are the ones that are bringing more joy.

So this company and business is just that. So many trees that have fruitful branches but the main tree *tip of the pyramid* get’s it’s share of praise by fertilizing the foundation that started it all and water to continue it’s healthy growth but the branches are the ones that get the most praise and joy by it’s fruits that it produces. You gotta till the soil and cultivate your foundation before you can grow a fruitful tree. But most importantly you need to have a lot of patience as trees don’t grow overnight. It takes years to grow a tree and branch out into something that will blossom and provide fruit.

If you wanna cultivate your future tree … Click this link and start your own foundation and grow along with the many trees in the fruitful Amway Arboretum.

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Can’t spell Business without You – Part 20


Well, as of next month “April” my husband and I would celebrate our 1 yr. anniversary since starting this business. It has not been an easy year I can tell you that. But looking back I realized that the 1st year of the business is not about growth, not about making client base, not about making any profits … but more so it’s about YOU !!

In this business they always talk about the 2 to 5 yr. plan notice it says 2 to 5 yrs. not 1 to 5 yrs. Having almost reached the 1 yr. mark I look back and realize that in the 1st year what it important is focusing on yourself. Unless you have previous business experiences or skills going from a nobody to a business owner requires a lot of changes in you as a person.

So I believe that the first year you start you should focus solely on yourself. Make changes in your weakness, strengthen your strengths, change your negatives into positive, and most importantly improve your mindset. In the beginning you’ll attend seminars where they always talk about having the right mindset.

I believe the first year of business should focus mainly on yourself and who you are as a person. I know even though I am nearing the one year mark I as myself still has a lot to learn and change. People skills is one thing I’d like to change and overcome. Shyness is another. Also negative mindset similar to the image above ↑ of I can’t, I won’t, It’s Impossible, etc. Mainly lack of faith in themselves and self-confidence.

We have made much growth since starting this business but we aren’t giving up nor quitting. I believe that first we must gain growth personally before we can gain growth business wise. I am excited to start off the 2nd yr. and hopefully in the 2nd year there will be growth and change in not just the business but personally as well and the business will begin to prosper.